Ever since I was a child and discovered the excitement which surrounded New Years, I ensured that each and every year I would have a set of resolutions. You can imagine what 8-year-olds resolutions were like, although I am sure they were forgotten about as quickly as it took to think of them. It wasn’t until I entered my teenage years when I began to take them a little more seriously, with one resolution appearing each and every year without fail – become less of a picky eater. Now I will be the first to admit I don’t always keep to my resolutions, but I do attempt to the best that I can, and sometimes it works – as I am still a picky eater, but less so than I was years before, I even eat eggs now!
But this year I am letting go of my attachment of resolutions. In fact, upon entering 2019, I made a promise to myself that I would not set any resolutions but instead promises to myself for the forthcoming year. Now, maybe there isn’t too much difference between a goal, a promise or a resolution but with a promise, I feel there is a bit more leeway and not as much pressure. As resolutions feel they have to be produced moments after they are made and that they must be maintained consistently over the year otherwise you are a failure. Promises to myself, on the other hand, I think are firstly kinder on my mental health as I am less likely to berate myself if I don’t do it but allows me to recognise that these promises are a continuous work in progress.
In 2018, it was a year which I felt as an individual I grew a lot and began to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be. I even started counselling to figure out a dialogue for myself and how I need to start viewing not only myself but friends, family and generally people all around me. Which is what I hope to take into account in these promises which I have made for myself.
To be entirely honest, I was unsure whether or not to share my promises in a post like this as some for me are entirely personal, but I don’t think there will be much harm in sharing a couple.
I promise myself that in 2019 I will become more mindful. Not only of my own person and actions but of others too and accept that I can only ever be responsible for myself. Which leads onto another promise, I promise that I will always try to do the right thing even if it isn’t easy especially if I am in the wrong and admit to it. I promise that I will attempt a more vegetarian diet throughout the year which starts with eating less meat. I promise to exercise and love my body a little bit more, continue my yoga practice and attempt to introduce running into the mix when I can. I promise to open my heart and my mind more to others.
And finally, I promise to myself to always choose kind. (Admittedly, that one is inspired by Wonder, but I think it’s a pretty good promise.)
Well, that’s it for this blog post and let me know what your resolutions or goals or promises are this year! Or do you even prescribe to New Year resolutions?